The many names of Tapping:

EFT Tapping, That Tap Technique, Emotional Freedom Technique

What is Thai Massage

Pachana is one of those words with many definitions some including "digestion, cooking, boiling" in reference to our health it means promoting digestion that includes ways to help your body heal from indigestion, helping toxins or cellular breakdown leave the body, and out ability to protect ourselves from the affects of allergens and harder to digest foods and there affect on our body.

What is tapping?

hey i'm jen merritt welcome to an introduction to tapping also known as emotional freedom technique today we're going to talk about acupressure points that help calm our nervous system and we're going to apply it to creating some inner feelings of peace it's going to be a lighthearted experience i want to let you know about my classes and when i teach it is helpful to participate just like if you were to watch a yoga class or watch a boot camp class it would be boring you wouldn't get much from it it's an actual experience so tapping is a personal growth experience where we're tapping on points on the body that have a physiological effect of calming our mind
creating neural pathways throughout our body based on what we're talking about we can clear energy or we can shift our beliefs this technique is used in trauma work as well um i use it more for personal growth helping people look at things differently and uh as a beginner it's i'm really just educating people on how to use this personal growth tool for yourself um it is helpful sometimes to have a coach someone who's been doing this for a long time um i see myself as a tour guide and an educator i know the terrain using this technique i'm also a licensed hypnotherapist i'm in the last 20 years i've done a 200 or 500 hour training in a multiple of alternative health modalities i'm a licensed massage therapist yoga teacher for adults and for kids
i obviously and practiced i like this is what i do emotional freedom technique tapping hypnotherapy i did a 500 hour training in ayurveda that i consider myself a little bit of a baby at so i have a team of people that i'll reference to if somebody comes to me to learn ayurveda i'm great at introducing it to people i have a three-hour session that i'll do one-on-one to help people understand how it can be applied to their life and then after that i have a couple doctors i work with so i teach yoga once a week as well in video on demand and i share these classes i'm just i think mental health we associate that as something you go to a licensed therapist for and mental health is more like you have a mind how do you keep it healthy and you know to be able to have a toolbox of things to do when you feel certain
things that's really important to me so in this class this is confidential if we are sharing one-on-one what you share let's create an environment where this no one speaks what they hear in this class and um and in other classes that i teach we do go deeper and things that i want to build intention around is that there's some consistency to showing up this is an introduction we're not going so deep but in some classes we do go deep people do get personal and it is important to create environments where we're all respecting each other's boundaries and we really show up with that confidence when we're in zoom or any kind of video chat right now right and we want to show up as though we're in person we want to have this integrity where we're not multitasking we're not trying to
work while doing this and and that is fine sometimes but this isn't a movie you know you're doing this to have an experience and so a part of creating that experience is being present during the class and even in watching a video like showing up as though you're seen and heard not for anyone else because it's not about anyone else it's about you and you showing up for yourself having the experience that you're looking for which today the experience is all around creating some peace so i'll start by just telling you a little bit about emotional freedom technique tapping it started in the 80s gary craig studied with robert callahan a licensed psychiat psychiatrist who was using this technique for mental illness as far as conditions like schizophrenia bipolar add and he found specific points helped people in certain ways like fear of water
anxiety like belief work you know someone has an association of food um and certain foods that they have an emotional connection to using it for things like that and it was working he just he discovered it kind of spontaneously and it was working and it attracted other people to learn from him and gary craig went and he took the technique and he made it really simple he was an engineer and a life coach and he also studied in nlp and he put it together in a system and he taught a lot of people and then that kind of went off into different branches robert callahan went into different branches of tapping in different ways and so the form of eft that i'm doing came from that background and the way that it works is whenever you're tapping on a point anywhere along that energy line in the
body if there's too much energy it calms it and if there is a depletion in energy it restores it so you could look at energy in the body as heat you could look at energy in the body as your brain sending a message to an organ or a tissue that's energy you know energy because it's like how do you feel today are you tired are you awake are you radiant that's energy so when we're doing this work this is a very simplified way of working with energy and you don't have to know a lot because the points don't change the points are the side of the hand inside of the eyebrow the outside of the eyebrow underneath the eye
between the nose and the lip between the lip and the chin the collar bone and when you lift the arm the scapula wings out and you're tapping on the inside part of the wing of the scapula and then the top of the head some of the effects of these points is calming the heart helping the lungs expand the diaphragm release this is my experience this is not just my experience hopefully you'll experience it today and i obviously i've seen this help so many people for example i had a client who i worked with a mom and a daughter they were struggling with the mom still in
the role of wanting to mother her daughter and protect her and make decisions for her and it was limiting their relationship because now the daughter's in her early 40s and her mom is still um wanting to have a role in her life that the daughter didn't want and so it was creating some blocks and i did a tapping session with them where they were able to have a shift in perspective around feeling trust for the daughter in her decisions feeling confident about her capabilities feeling really good that she did a good job as a mother and we really built through the tapping technique as well as using some communication techniques of hypnosis and nlp um i really i was listening to her and you know the more i the more you use
your own words and what's true for you the more quickly you can shift and have that oh new perspective aha you know and that aha moment is really what's transformative and so this is where i feel like i'm a tour guide i i know different routes to have that aha moment and i know questions to ask and so i'm just supporting her and asking the right questions and she has these aha moments where she leaves feeling like okay i really did a good job i trust my daughter and it shifted their relationship another mother-daughter experience that i had um was someone came to me and they were telling themselves that their mom didn't love them they weren't able to see how their mom was able to love them and so in you know and this is where it's like it's personal growth when you're doing the tapping you're really doing it for yourself um it can be used for deeper trauma work
but it's really what is coming up for you in the moment and in the moment she was feeling sad and hurt and so we started with those feelings and we followed them and throughout the session i don't really know what's gonna happen i just listen we follow the feelings that are currently happening in the body and it you know it's we it's like climbing them out and we resolve create an experience of having a resolution and for her the resolution was looking at all the different ways her mom was able to show love and it completely shifted their relationship because now instead of having this mental dialogue of repeating my my mom doesn't love me my mom doesn't love me my my mom does this but she doesn't love me she was saying wow look at all the ways my mom loves me and so her response and the relationship shifted um there's a whole lot of other experiences
i could share um but just those were two um two examples of how this can be used for the present moment what's coming up for you and then shifting it so that you have that experience of change um so if so today we're going to do tapping round choosing peace it's super light and simple it feels good no matter who we are we can always feel better that's it's like exercise you exercise you feel stronger you do this it's like exercise for your mind and your mind has more confidence stability calmness awareness and so i'll show you first what this would look like if i was doing this as a personal practice and the first part is to clear any self-sabotage any part of us that has negativity that doesn't believe in something or the first part just
neutralizes that block and then after that you're tapping on the points you start by saying on a scale of 0 to 10 where am i at like if it's a negative emotion 10 would be unbearable zero would be no feeling whatsoever it's just you're neutral you wouldn't even be doing tapping on it so if we're doing something like this and i say okay well i can always feel more peaceful i can always feel better on a 0 to 10 10 being an unbearable no peace at all zero being peaceful i would say i i would say because i'm teaching this i am genuinely like over excited so it's not really bad but it's also not peaceful and so i'll say that it's at three you want to focus on physical sensation so it's like my heart is racing i my breath is short and kind of fluttery
and so you gauge the number the number there is no right or wrong it's simply a way for you to sense into your starting point and your ending point when doing this practice when you get to five or below simply using positive affirmations there's different techniques you can use to help get to the root of it but before a five you really focus on present moment the present moment what are you experiencing and so the first part clears the negative mind and looks like even though i have this level three excitement my heart is racing i'm jittery my energy feels jittery i deeply and completely love and accept myself even though i have this level three feeling of jitteriness and excitement in my heart space around my lungs i deeply and completely
love and accept myself you say it three times and the more you can say it with meaning the better but it still works even if you don't say it with meaning even though i have this level three when you say the number you're activating the part of your brain that is more rational feeling of jitteriness in my heart space and i know i can feel more calm i deeply and completely love and accept myself so really what we're doing with this is we're creating a sense of i accept my reality no matter what there are some times where you don't accept your reality in which case you might not say i love and accept myself you might say this is how it is you want to say something that's true for you so that's the first part then then you start tapping
this feeling of jitteriness you say the feeling you tune into it you allow it to be it's giving love to it like it's a child like your body is a child and instead of trying to force it to be different you're just loving it my heart is racing tune into it this feeling of jitteriness saying it out loud helps you stay present with it there are reasons this technique doesn't work for people and one of the main reasons is because they jump from thing to thing the thing they don't stay focused and that's one reason why this is really helpful to do in a group or together um or with someone that can help you stay focused because it is re the emotions fluctuate and if we jump from one thing to one thing to one thing we might even just re-trigger ourselves and then we're not feeling better so you
want to do this practice so that you're leaving feeling better that's the intention you're tapping on each of these points and if you're watching this feel free to practice tapping the first part of the technique you're focused on the feeling this jitteriness this jitteriness focus on how would you describe the feeling and while i'm continuing to feel the feeling i'm gonna be more clear with you about the points so the first point is between the knuckle and the end of the hand it's right in the center the points are the size of a needle a doctor of acupuncture is in some states they're doctors um they do go to school for the same amount of time it's they're
it's so specific when you're working with these acupressure points as a acupuncturist we're not being specific and the point is small so if you're in the general area you're hitting the point the top of the head is right in the center the eye points are on the ridge of the bone here your eye socket they're on the ridge of the bone so when i say eyebrow it's actually on the ridge of the bone so you can feel the very at top of the ridge is where you're at on each of the eye points this feeling of jitteriness and then the space around the lips is the very deepest indentation between the nose and the chin so while you're watching practice the points just see what it feels like you tap seven to eight times it really doesn't matter how many times you tap on
the point you don't want to be thinking about it so in the beginning you're thinking about it because you're learning you wanna as you get used to it it's no longer new you're no longer learning it becomes even more and more of a helpful experience so in the beginning you're just learning learn the points see what they feel like and then after a little bit the affirmation now i'll do i'm choosing peace i'm choosing peace i am choosing peace i am choosing peace so the first part of the technique you give it is zero to ten if you're above a five you focus on the feeling like i showed you you do the affirmation in the beginning then you do the tapping points while focused on the sensation giving love to
the body allowing the sensation to do whatever it needs to do but just give it love and then you go into a positive affirmation this is one way to use this technique and so today it's going to be choosing peace choosing peace i am choosing peace i know that i can have more peace i'm willing to feel peaceful [Music] collarbone point right here you're on the very end there's a nerve that runs through the soft spot in the neck so you don't want to be on soft tissue make sure you're right on the end of the bone you also don't want to be in this port there's a lymphatic junction here you want to be on either side and then when you lift the scapula up you can use one finger i use four
fingers here some people go like this that's fine you can also switch science the meridians are circular you can jump around it's helpful when learning to just learn in a line get into a habit of doing it so that is a demo of what it looks like and maybe now you've been practicing the technique let's do it together so that you can actually have a genuine experience of it so in the beginning when you're learning if this is something that is new or if you're thinking thoughts like this is weird i don't know you feel that kind of resistance you're actually that's what you would want to do tapping on first because if you want to do tapping on whatever it is that is real for you so if you're feeling if you have emotion just around learning if you have emotion around
doing something that's kind of different from what you grew up with or from what you see other people do or because this is weird we're tapping on our face we didn't grow up like with our family being like hey when you're nervous tap people around me have because when you know like my nieces and family when they're sad i've shown them the points but i didn't grow up that way so if you have a feeling around what am i doing this is weird you know that's common normal lots of people experience that when learning this and it's an emotion to move through if it's real for you so that way you can have peace with this technique so if you're you know so that's just a little tip in the beginning focus on what's real for you um so we'll do choosing peace first um scan your body
on a zero to ten ten being unbearable zero being having experiencing peace where are you at and what does it feel like in your body once you have the number and the feeling we'll begin with the affirmation even though i have this and then say the number and then describe the feeling i choose to deeply and completely love and accept myself
we'll say this two more times even though i have this feeling describe it and it's a number say the number i choose to deeply and completely love and accept myself and i know that i can feel more peace right now even though i have this feeling describe the feeling and it's a number i deeply and completely love and accept myself
and i'm creating more piece right now and then tap on the inside of the eyebrow focus on the feeling in your body feel it it is okay give some care nurturing and love through tapping on these points and say out loud the feeling
take a deep breath in notice how you can breathe even with this feeling notice how whatever this feeling is there's other aspects of you that feel differently focus on the sensation this point here is really helpful for the breath so while tapping on the collarbone take a deep breath in letting the air out
say the feeling describe it in your body not what you found at the beginning but what do you feel right now feel the feeling even with this feeling i know i can be more peaceful the scapula point even with this feeling i am choosing peace and then we'll do one more round simply saying choosing peace and choosing peace i am choosing peace i am choosing peace i know i can feel more peace choosing peace
take a moment to think about that feeling and say to yourself whatever it is that's causing this feeling if i need to come back to this later i can maybe i do maybe i don't but for right now i am choosing peace for this moment i am choosing peace and say what's real for you and we'll stop here so that's a really
beautiful introduction to eft tapping i hope you had a good experience and that you're feeling more alive and peaceful and radiant and [Music] because that's why we're here we want to do this type of personal growth so that we're moving ourselves in a more empowered confident direction aligned with our higher you know our higher self who are we and so i do teach some more in-depth group classes and then i have courses in eft tapping i have a deep introduction course that gives you a whole range of communication techniques to use alongside of the tapping points and then also different ways to use it like how to improve your meditation how to improve relationships learning how to put up boundaries um like some people have a hard time saying no or we're saying yes or receiving or things like that it's really helpful for things like
like learning feeling states sometimes we go through life where we just never felt a certain way so we don't even know how to recognize it and tapping can help your brain build neurons around ooh now i know what that feels like once you know what it feels like you also have more of ability more of an ability to create experience in your life that gives you that feeling so there's all kinds of different ways that we can use this tapping technique to improve our life and you can reach out to me if you'd like the introduction other things that i have is i have a housekeeping class resolving issues around housekeeping um and money financial abundance manifesting that in your world resolving blocks around like what people will think if i have money resolving blocks on how it feels to hold it all kinds of things around saving finances i partner with an expert on that and
um there's one other course that i have it is it's called the artist within and this is a course for creatives people who want to use tapping to clear past experiences where their their inner creativity was blocked clearing that energy around our creative enemies and building energy around our creative support team finding time to create everything around creation so it's really helpful for like an artist that plays music and they're not learning something quick enough they want to learn quicker or they find that they go to sit down to do something and they get distracted so the artist within is really helpful for someone who is wanting to embrace their creative self and use this tapping technique as a personal growth way to get there so i hope you enjoyed this class you can reach out to me at the info here and i
look forward to connecting namaste

Tapping for Kids

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    hello everybody i am so excited about today's interview with jennifer merritt i'm gonna have her speak to who she is and how she got into this work for herself so that way you can hear her own story so jen do you mind starting us off with that hi welcome thank you for having me everyone so i started 20 years ago in the healing arts i was in high school i had my journey there um and i had a lot of questions about life and i was super sensitive and i found myself learning about massage and it was a home for me to grow what i was good at in the world and so every two to five years i did a 200 or 500 hour training since so i'm certified or licensed in massage therapy hypnotherapy ayurveda yoga kids yoga and i'm very practiced in eft tapping it's a
    passion so i love all the things like the physical movement of yoga mindfulness meditation i'm really on this path of like what would help what works and not what works as in like coping mechanisms that are temporary but like what has more long-lasting effects to help us move and navigate the world so through this um the last like maybe 10 or 15 years i've been teaching kids yoga during the summer at various camps and programs um and then i've you know really through the inspiration of this podcast and wanting to combine what i know with kids yoga and tapping i've taught eft tapping to families and teachers and people who would share it with kids and i've used it with kids but i wanted something really specific that's more about being present in the moment um so i came up with a whole bunch of
    tapping songs that would help kids just be able to look around and feel more grounded and present in their body oh my goodness i am so excited to hear more about this um so just as a way of background and why i'm so excited to have you and this conversation today is because those of you who are listening and our members know that i'm a behavioral pediatrician i see many kids with adhd but as we know adhd often does not run by itself anxiety is a very common co-existing condition that can happen and especially given the fact that we have been living through this pandemic the amount of anxiety has really skyrocketed it's always been there but it has really amplified the need to provide coping strategies for people of all ages and so i will just share a very quick personal
    story my own daughter i think i've talked about her on this podcast before but she is almost 13 she has anxiety that ebbs and flows i recently stumbled upon tapping because of my daughter and we found it to be very helpful now i used an app for it but i'm so glad that i found jen here to kind of talk to us about those stories where you've heard her say that she's taught this to kids used it with other clients and i really would love to hear that in the application because i don't think it's a very common strategy that many people know of so if we could start by defining what eft is i've heard you say that several times and then just kind of the basic premise of what tapping is and we're not talking about tap dancing even though i do do that too but if you could um just make sure that we're all on the same page jen
    sure so tapping is where you're tapping on points on the body that have a calming effect on what your experience is so it allows your brain to send a more calm message through your body and in that way it helps you reframe what you're thinking and feeling and what your sensations are each point is related to a meridian line in the body so there's a component of improving digestion making it easier to breathe relaxing the physical body and there is um there's currents in the body that are measurable you know if you go to a hospital and you get an ekg they're going to measure your brain or your heart so there's some currents in the body that are measurable through machines and then there's some currents of the body that aren't necessarily measurable through machines however it's it's more like static electricity you know if you were to have static electricity how your hair comes up that might not be detectable by a machine but
    it's very clear to us that there is an energy here in the form of heat and static and how we receive the sunlight we gain energy from the earth we gain energy we can feel fatigued or we can feel jittery so we're actually experiencing energy in all these different ways and it is very clear and very measurable so the tapping what it's doing is it's helped creating a calming effect so we get to experience more calmness some people would say is this a distraction and the thing is like if i go do laundry i might be distracted for a moment on something that was troubling me or stressing me out but if i'm not going to feel better about it i'm not going to have an aha moment where i'm like oh wait i didn't think of it that way you know and so for example i was teaching at a camp i was not there to do eft this was not a healing session it was
    i just happened to be there as a counselor for the kids and a little girl ran out of the room and she just started crying and so i wasn't gonna ask her any questions i just said you know like i know a tapping point that might help you feel better would it be okay to tap and she said yes and she just started tapping on a point that i showed her and while she was happy i didn't say anything i literally just witnessed her and watched her and she cried a little bit she started talking about her fear in the lunchroom and how many people there are and how she doesn't know what to say and i just listened and once she said it she stopped she wasn't crying anymore and she walked back into the lunch room she had lunch the rest of the day by the end of the week she was social with people she was talking with people and and i really want to emphasize i wasn't doing healing work on her but whenever an emotion is a current of energy is overpowering and strong you can tap and you can do these points to help calm the
    body and and no we didn't grow up with this i mean think of where we were 50 years ago 100 years ago it's okay that things were different then things are different now and now we have all these tools like mindfulness it's more culturally accepted to do things like tapping because everyone wants to feel better like we all are recognizing that we need healthier choices in life to calm our nervous system thank you for that story because i think for those folks who are either watching or listening to this and have not had any experience of what tapping is i think that helps ground us in a concrete example of its application but i'm wondering if you could maybe maybe elaborate more like is this how easy or hard is it like i i get i i think i know what your answer is going to be just because of the story you just gave us but how easy or hard is it to
    use this technique with kids and what's the youngest age in which you've done this with kids well so in the long history of my work i have a lot more experience teaching kids yoga and so in that way that a lot of the principals as young as three you know you can be tapping um i mean you can be doing massage and things to help calm an infant like reflexology there's all kinds of things before the age of seven kids are receiving information so quickly that you're not do it's really about being present it's like if like i wouldn't go try and do deep work with a five-year-old i would just say like let's tap and sing a song or let's tap and talk about a story and then talk about a story that would give them a lesson you know like that they're you know a story that they love or or a guided meditation like we're gonna inhale like a balloon and then exhale like a balloon you know things like that for seven and below
    um like as kids are already processing the world and things are coming up and they're being more contemplative then you can be more contemplative with this work the tapping points don't change there might be different systems of tapping at this point because it's been around since the 80s where people might add a point change a point they might do eye exercises with it there are a little bit of different protocols but my experience is that all the protocols work it's just a matter of building ritual in our lives um i would recommend that you know before bringing this into your children's life bring this into your life you know before asking a child to understand the benefits of stillness or the benefits of wellness the benefits of quietness um practice being quiet practice being still for yourself you know learn tapping learn surrogate tapping do tapping for yourself on what's
    stressing you out as a parent or a teacher so that way you know when you've experienced in your body then when you go to share it with your kids that wisdom is transferred so easily and and you're confident with it because kids are going to very quickly perceive you're sure that this is helping and and i mean and they get it because they they don't have those blocks to feeling better they don't have such mixture of programs in their mind life you know the older we get the more complex we wire information and the more stimulus we have cross-wired so whereas kids it's a little simpler um it's more direct so which is why we focus on more simple like visualize the color while tapping you know things like that so i um for those of those members who are listening to this and cannot see you actually reference the different tapping points can you walk us
    through what those tapping points where they are just so that they can kind of visualize what that looks like and how long a typical tapping session could be um to experience some of that relief and that grounding so i talked a little bit about having your own practice on thecollectiveconsciousness.com i have a tapping program that's free and this is really for adults you learn the tapping points you learn how to apply it to meditation and you learn how to apply it to storytelling so this would be a great useful tool for you for being able to start this for yourself um having creating an environment for quiet stillness an environment whether it's like one chair at a table or a corner of a room or a whole room
    having like helping to have a physical place to sit and have practice for yourself and for your kids so when you're practicing they say oh like when i know you're in that corner that's a time that i either join you and practice with you or i watch and they're learning from you and they also know that when they want to practice mindfulness and it can be mindful drawing it can you know but something that's intentional to calm and slow down and and i want to say that that it's intentional to come and slow down and there's nothing wrong if you have a lot of energy and you need and your meditation is going for a walk you know like you're like honor what's actually real in your body i think that's what i love about this technique is it's not trying to be different it's not trying to make yourself be something that's not true for you it's actually helping you tap figuratively like more and more into
    what is alive in you what more is more is your truth um and being okay with that and then in turn the central nervous system calms you're not resisting an aspect of you so creating an atmosphere for practice and like some place where it's never about punishment it's not a time out it's really like this is the place that we're building the ability to associate being calm with yes and um having kids see you practice and also doing it together so i am throughout this i tap and i talk and but you're not missing anything if you're just listening to this i'm not gonna teach you the tapping points in this video um i would much rather you have a very holistic experience where you're really understanding because the points themselves are simple but it would not be a good service for you to walk away from this 20-minute conversation tap on some
    points hoping you're going to feel better maybe feeling better but not having the results that comes from lots of practice and the fullness of understanding the depth of this practice and this way of bringing it into your life because the truth is it works really quick for me i've also got 15 years experience doing it you know it's like we don't start out knowing how to process certain feelings or sensations we don't we like it for it is a learned behavior to say okay i'm feeling angry am i okay with feeling angry i'm feeling anxious do i feel safe in this environment feeling anxious i'm feeling like these kinds of things we've learned oh like i can go into my corner and now i know how to calm my jittery now i know how to have a ritual for reading now i know how to when my heart starts racing breathe in a way where i accept myself and i feel calm those kinds of things we
    learn over time so the tapping itself is super easy um but the learning of how to apply it in a way where we're like recognizing success and change and knowing how to move more quickly and efficiently into what our experiences so we're not it's ultimately like we're not stuck by it right you know so thank you for that because i will absolutely be sharing first of all your website uh links to uh your new program which you'll talk about here in a second and then also the um the series of videos or the program that you had mentioned for adults to learn how to tap so some of the takeaways that i just took from that one is parents if you're going to do this with your child it's really important that you yourself have the experience and know what it's like um incorporate this into your daily
    ritual as well because when we are tasked to teach this to children it'll go much more smoothly when we have that innate experience and understand the benefits for ourselves and then we can better be able to communicate and share that wisdom with our children so that's number one number two is it is a something that you have to practice you can't just do it once you can't just do it twice you can't just watch a video and gather that information it is not just the motions but it is the true experience being mindful being present learning to associate what those thoughts and feelings are in the moment and using all of that combined with tapping to help us kind of navigate in the moment those those feelings that we have um and i will say that i think this is such a wonderful strategy or another tool in your toolbox
    if i may say that gem because for many of my families you know we are we touch on emotion without commotion i teach kids a variety of different techniques and because i am new to tapping as i mentioned i had discovered this and i'm using a guided app so that we can practice and learn together with my daughter it has been really helpful for her to just know that in those moments especially if i'm not there we've done it enough now that she can fall back on it herself and do it for herself and that's really what we want we want our kids to not be afraid of those strong negative emotions or whatever is happening in in that space but giving her that ability to know that she can work through that and she has the tools
    to do that yes thank you for recapping and when also when sharing this with kids sometimes they won't act like they're listening and i'm sure you've talked about this before they'll but i've seen that like they'll act disinterested be fidgeting around but then they'll go in the bathroom and they'll be like you know or they'll go in like they don't think you're looking and they'll be tapping to see like does this work so it's like don't feel like it's not working or something failed or they're not interested you know because a lot of times it's like they just want to kind of see it on their own first and you know they're depending on how much of a need for independence or you know and and we can help them with recognizing that i think even with the tapping tapping and talking about being empowered to to to be able to self-regulate how you feel you know and
    obviously talking about it in a different way so i would love to share um the program that i just created is really applying singing with tapping when we sing if we're activating a different part of our brain and when we calm our nervous system when we tap into our subconscious really that's also what we're doing when we're doing tapping is we're connecting our conscious mind with our subconscious mind with our higher mind and that integration of these three ways of being in our mental body is you know it allows us to have those aha moments to see things differently to be more connected with what's and this is so important being more connected with what's real inside um so [Music] when we're singing we're also activating those those new parts of our brain and i'm wondering because this is not like i
    don't exactly know like the difference what part of the brain or do we use when we're singing versus when we're talking but maybe you know have you talked about this before we haven't to that detail but there is definitely biology behind this because again when we talk about in the moment we talk about like the reptilian brain or the amygdala right and the rational brain and the frontal lobe area but then when we sing we take a deep breath we actually are activating our vagus nerve to then be able to turn on and off that circuitry and be able to sort of help calm ourselves so we do talk about that with kids because they think sometimes they're like take a breath what are you talking about like they don't really understand why we're saying that and i i found that when kids are given the knowledge they're much more accepting of trying something new because they understand it and if you can present it in a child-friendly way so yes for sure and so that vagus nerve connects our
    heart our breath it's like 90 of that communication between our brain and body that's automatic so that's what i'm talking about is like we're connecting our conscious mind with our subconscious yeah so there's a part of our conscious mind that can breathe in and out and then there's the subconscious part of mind that might have resistance or have fullness of breath or might breathe more into the belly or might breathe more shallow whereas if you're breathing more shallow over time that can create like a low-grade fear you know that because you're not actually getting the air and we have there's actual body positions facial expressions and breathing patterns connected to primal movements um primal emotions i'm so sorry i'm so excited so i'm mixing up my words um but you know so when you're fearful or sad or happy or angry or feeling overly confident there's specific body positions breathing patterns and facial
    expressions that can go with that like have you ever this is something we can do with kids too like confidence like lift your arms up look up you know and on just doing this and breathing helps kids feel more confident if a child is sad they're gonna round if an adult is sad they're gonna round their eyebrows will go up you know like their breathing will be in through the nose and out through the mouth and kind of choppy that's on a primal level yep so we have these like instinctual ways that our physical posture also influences how we think and feel um so but it's connected through that vagus nerve and that subconscious subconscious and so um so the tapping songs in this program you learn you get a video kind of like what you're watching with your daughter um that it gives you something to watch with your children to say like what are the tapping points and some technique to like help kids kind of relate like while you're tapping on the eyes like
    squinting and pretending you're an eagle or pretending that you're popping a bubble you know like giving them some kind of playful ways to learn the points um and then we do different things like there's one song called love alive in me and over the last few months i've been really meditating on like like what would i want as a five-year-old like what do i think would help the people in my life you know as far as helping them be present also giving them tools like a ritual before learning to read um so there's different variations of some of these songs that you could do if you're feeling jittery if you're feeling worried if you're feeling anxious or angry or you know and it's with anger we're in the song we talk about honoring the feeling but then we also talk about being empowered to choose how we want to be with this strong feeling you know we also tap and stomp our feet so that there's an expression of getting it out so you're
    actually learning ways to like be in your body while having this emotion of what an anger is an emotion of wanting something different yeah so from there you can tap get the frustration anger out and then you can say well what is it that i'm wanting and then have a conversation about it and learn a healthier way to be with your anger versus like i want to throw something you know um so there's tools to help kids you know even before they know how to recognize the anger as a parent or teacher you know oh you're really frustrated right now let's do the tap tap tap technique for helping to clear out some of this frustration you know and you can sing it with them um and then there's some that are just playful and fun like i spy and counting counting on the mind counting backwards has a very calming um effect as well like maybe you've heard that but it's a very powerful tool for relaxing the body
    oh gosh so jen i have to say i know that we're out of time but i will absolutely be putting those several links in the show notes for the families i am so excited to explore this program with you um and to look at this a little bit more because i can absolutely see so much application for this as you were describing it i love how child friendly and focused you are and just that modeling of what you just walked us through was gold so thank you so much yes thank you for sharing this with people and until then yes thank you again and i hope you guys will check out all those resources and make sure you can feel free to reach out to her after if you want to learn more and explore this for yourself thank you bye

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